Understanding DARVO is crucial for victims of abuse.

DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse, Victim, Offend) is a pattern of behavior used by individuals (particularly those with narcissistic traits) to deflect accountability and manipulate others. It’s a form of gaslighting where a narcissistic individual denies their wrongdoing, attacks the victim, flips the script to portray themselves as the victim, and shifts blame to the other person. DARVO can be particularly harmful in situations involving abuse, where … Read More

Learning How To Say “No”

Some individuals find it difficult to say “no” due to a combination of factors, including fear of disappointing others, a desire to avoid conflict, and a strong need for social approval. These challenges can stem from past experiences where saying “no” was negatively received, or from a deeply ingrained sense of obligation or guilt. Effective “no” communication is direct, concise, and respectful. Learning to say “no” … Read More

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Link between Anxiety and Breathing

When someone experiences anxiety, their breathing pattern often becomes rapid & shallow, which can exacerbate symptoms. Practicing controlled breathwork can activate the parasympathetic nervous system, effectively calming the body and reducing anxiety by signaling to the brain that it is safe, thus mitigating the “fight or flight” response. Key points about the connection between anxiety & breathwork: Physiological impact: When anxious, the body naturally enters a … Read More

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What is Codependency?

Codependency is a learned behavior that involves one person in a relationship sacrificing their own needs for the other person. Codependency can occur in any type of relationship – romantic, platonic, or familial. It can be passed down from one generation to another. Here are some signs of codependency: Over time, this unhealthy pattern can interfere with relationships and contribute to depression, anxiety, hopelessness, and feeling … Read More

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The Lasting Effects of Trauma

Trauma can have profound and lasting effects on individuals, impacting their emotional, mental, physical, and social well-being. Here are some common effects of trauma: Emotional Effects: Mental Effects: Physical Effects: Social Effects: Behavioral Effects: Long-term Effects: Phases of Recovery Phase 1: Safety and Stabilization: Establishing a safe environment, Building trust with a therapist or support system, Managing symptoms (e.g., anxiety, depression), Developing coping mechanisms. Phase 2: … Read More

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How Men Can Be Tricked By Female Narcissists

Research suggests that men may be attracted to individuals with narcissistic personality traits due to their confidence, charm, and charisma. In this blog, we discuss how men can be easily tricked by female narcissists. Here are some possible reasons why men might be susceptible to manipulation by female narcissists: It’s essential to remember that relationships with narcissists are toxic, and anyone can be a victim of … Read More

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Defining an Emotional Affair

An emotional affair is a non-physical connection between two individuals that can lead to strong emotional intimacy, often at the expense of existing relationships. It’s characterized by: Signs that you or your partner is involved in an emotional affair: Consequences: If you are involved in an emotional affair or suspect your partner is, feel free to reach out to us about making an appointment. Individual therapy … Read More

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True growth is being able to witness your thoughts without allowing them to overwhelm you.

If you’ve ever suffered from overwhelming thoughts and struggled to make sense of them all, know that you are not alone… “There is nothing more important to true growth than realizing that you are not the voice of the mind; you are the one who hears it.” – Michael Singer It’s this detachment of ego and witnessing of thoughts (aka meditation) that produces a sense of … Read More

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How Stress Affects Your Physical Health

Stress requires your body to react / adjust in response to events around you. Your body reacts to these changes with physical, mental, and/or emotional responses. In this post, we’re going to focus on just a few of the physical effects of constant stress on your body. This is a reminder to us all to give our bodies a break; that rest and relaxation is a … Read More

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