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Understanding DARVO is crucial for victims of abuse.

May 21, 2025 by Holistic Counseling Center

DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse, Victim, Offend) is a pattern of behavior used by individuals (particularly those with narcissistic traits) to deflect accountability and manipulate others. It’s a form of gaslighting where a narcissistic individual denies their wrongdoing, attacks the victim, flips the script to portray themselves as the victim, and shifts blame to the other person. DARVO can be particularly harmful in situations involving abuse, where … Read More

How Men Can Be Easily Tricked By Female Narcissists

Individual Counseling | Trauma

How Men Can Be Tricked By Female Narcissists

Research suggests that men may be attracted to individuals with narcissistic personality traits due to their confidence, charm, and charisma. In this blog, we discuss how men can be easily tricked by female narcissists. Here are some possible reasons why men might be susceptible to manipulation by female narcissists: It’s essential to remember that relationships with narcissists are toxic, and anyone can be a victim of … Read More

Individual Counseling

What is Scapegoating? Counseling For Individuals in Long Island

Unfair, unjust, and brutal… Scapegoating is a dangerous and often overlooked behavior in the realm of abuse. It ruins self-esteem, increases anger / depression, and crushes trust. So let’s explore what scapegoating is… Scapegoating is a behavior of singling out a person/child/employee/member of a group of peers with the intention of giving them unmerited negative treatment or blame. Scapegoat theory refers to the tendency to blame … Read More

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If you’re trying to break up with a true narcissist, expect these 5 things to happen.

You get love bombed out of the blue by an attractive / charismatic person, fall in love way too fast, and boom… you become a couple, and maybe move in with each other a little too soon. Later into the relationship, you realize that the person you initially got together with is not the same person they were portraying to you when you first met. After … Read More

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Individual Counseling

The Toxic, Negative Destruction Taken on Children of Narcissists

Dr. Linda Martinez-Lewi has a great podcast about Narcissistic Personality Disorder and how to heal from dealing or living with a narcissist. In one episode titled, “Childhood Origins of Those Who Live in the Shadows of the High Level Narcissist,” she talks about the negative destruction taken on children of narcissists: Children of narcissists become experts at catering to the idiosyncratic needs of the narcissistic parent/s. … Read More

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